Raising children vs Raising puppies and its similarities
I have no intention of having kids in the near future, but I noticed I was being more of a "daddy" with Eevee, especially during Halloween.
We went to four Halloween parties and participated in two costume contests. We purchased two different outfits (pirate and zebra) for the occasion too. Next year, I'm going to be sewing her costume... and it will be baadass.
Anywho, I noticed I was becoming a pageant mom! I was even giving her pep talks before she took stage and hugged her when she lost. She won second place as the pirate though. Will I be doing this with my kids?
So, will I give my children the same amount of attention? I paid for training lessons, park memberships, and tons of new accessories for her already.
So questions that came up when I was receiving our second place set of goodies:
We went to four Halloween parties and participated in two costume contests. We purchased two different outfits (pirate and zebra) for the occasion too. Next year, I'm going to be sewing her costume... and it will be baadass.
Anywho, I noticed I was becoming a pageant mom! I was even giving her pep talks before she took stage and hugged her when she lost. She won second place as the pirate though. Will I be doing this with my kids?
So, will I give my children the same amount of attention? I paid for training lessons, park memberships, and tons of new accessories for her already.
So questions that came up when I was receiving our second place set of goodies:
- Has anyone used their dog training techniques with their children? On accident or on purpose? Has it worked?
- Do you feel as though you give your dogs more attention than your kids?
- Have you paid for specialized training sessions for your dog such as swimming when you threw your kid in the pool to learn?
- Is taking your kid to the park as important as socializing your kids at a certain age?
- Did raising a puppy prepare you for having a child or vice versa?
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1. Yes accidentally tell kids to sit when they start screaming and running around. not too proud of that b/c i use the same hand signals i use for ciqala.
2. n/a but would I? definitely not
3. nope
4. depends on who you ask, culture, and a bunch of other factors. I would say yes though, I have met a lot of self professed "sheltered-as-a-kid" people, they are... unique.
5. YES. I think I'd be a terrible father if it wasn't for the patient tutelage of Saru. He kinda helped me get all of the kinks out of the experience of being responsible for another living, dependent, thing.
Has anyone used their dog training techniques with their children? On accident or on purpose? Has it worked?
A lot of the same principles apply but HOW you implement them are different, lol - if that makes sense. (rewarding the behaviors you do want whether it be with attention or something tangible vs. ignoring the bad unless is is something that is dangerous/destructive ... taking away privileges at times) and yes, it works with both. I have many more examples as we are actually doing a parenting class right now called The Incredible Years... it's awesome!
Do you feel as though you give your dogs more attention than your kids?
We don't, but at times our daughter feels that we do - kids just always want to be in the mix and at our daughters age there are days she wants every second of every minute of our time and attention
Have you paid for specialized training sessions for your dog such as swimming when you threw your kid in the pool to learn?
No, we pay for her swimming classes too! lol - we've only done training classes with our dogs so far... if we needed to her classes would always come first.
Is taking your kid to the park as important as socializing your kids at a certain age?
Yes, yes, yes!!! Kids really need time with other kids (especially OUTSIDE!!!) and most importantly kids learning by playing. Even in preschool their lessons are structured into play sessions - which is why preschool teachers ROCK!! They teach without the kids even knowing that they are learning!!!
Did raising a puppy prepare you for having a child or vice versa?
Yes, and mainly it's just the patience and unconditional love that both of them need - both are a big responsibility and with both - their needs will need to come before your own.
- made kissing noises to get the attention of my nephew (his mom constantly scolded me because her son is not a dog)
- done the "sssst" or "aaah aahhht" sound at my misbehaving nephew (luckily it's a cultural thing so his mom is fine with me there)
- showered my nephew with praise when he did something good
- ignored him when he was misbehaving
Jesse
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So now I know what being a new dad will be like. It was 75% guys (mid 20s to early 30s) at the dog park today, conversations all went along the lines of "Hey hows it going, how old is he/she?" "Oh she just turned 9 months old!" "Wow she's really cute!" "Thanks! How old is yours?" "He just turned 14 months!" "Awesome!"
Manliest day at the park ever.
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It was pretty much the same scene as "What To Expect When You're Expecting" where it's the group of dads at the park, all talking about the mistakes and accidents that they've done with their kids and talking proudly of their accomplishments haha.
I don't have any of my own kids or enough interaction with my nephew & niece in Texas to be able to answer the questions. I am definitely going to be making a badass samurai, ninja, or some game related outfit (Star Wolf or DBZ?). I also find myself looking up lessons, learning to be more patient due to having to clean up messes, and whenever I talk about Ren and her accomplishments it feels like I'm talking about my own child haha.
@Yandharr @CrimsonO2 LOL I'm just imagining both of your situations. I'll probly end up doing this on accident, then if my sister gets mad I'll just keep doing it on purpose
-I've learned how to ward off children running up to Toki. You have to have a serious face and tone and stand tall, like reprimanding a dog. The same. Is that terrible?
-I've learned how to talk to children after having Toki. It still feels verryyy artifical since I don't like children, but I've learned how to fake it now. Is that also terrible? lol!
Having no children nor wanting any in the next 5-10 years, I have also wondered ALL the same questions you've brought up. Such a good thread topic!!
Has anyone used their dog training techniques with their children? On accident or on purpose? Has it worked?
* I guess I would have to say yes, in a way. It is really just redirection, discouraging undesirable behaviors, etc. It is the same concept with humans and pets you just swap the method around to fit when working with children and then with your dogs.. You teach your infant/toddler not to touch electrical plugs by removing them from it and you might even say "no" or "ah-ah" or "that will hurt you" and so on. With your dog it is very similar: you see puppy chewing on the cord that is plugged into outlet and you do basically the same thing. Of course, it depends on what you are trying to teach/train because sometimes there are no similarities at all in my methods.
Do you feel as though you give your dogs more attention than your kids?
* No. As stated above, though, sometimes my children think I do. It is usually times when one of the teenagers wants me to take them somewhere unplanned and I say: "Yes, I'll take you but let me get the dogs walked real quick". Then he/she is all "You're taking care of the dogs before you take care of me" and then I explain "If I had known you wanted me to take you somewhere I would have had them taken care of and I would've been ready but you dropped it on me last minute so I just need a few minutes to take care of that and we will be on our way"
In reality, my children are always first and I do everything possible to make them feel that they are the most precious and most loved kids ever!
Have you paid for specialized training sessions for your dog such as swimming when you threw your kid in the pool to learn?
*No.
Is taking your kid to the park as important as socializing your kids at a certain age?
*Yes. I believe it is.
Did raising a puppy prepare you for having a child or vice versa?
*In some ways I am sure it did.
Penny got rewarded by Sheldon by giving chocolate
The only difference is that i actually LIKE looking at daily doggy pics, but find it annoying when people post pics of their kids, hahaha!!
Speaking of children and dogs.... Anyone who loves their dogs and doesn't have children, or might love their dogs as much as their own children, should def. read this.
It is a bit long, took me quite a while to read it, but it was so well written and the subject is interesting and I could relate.
Plus, the two dogs in the story are Shibas
The husband sounds like quite the douche, then again he was taught as a child that animals were disposable. Did you read the comments btw? It's funny reading people who only have cats complain that animals can never give as much fulfillment to a person as other people :P That Van Helsing novelty commentator is also doing a pretty good job trolling lol.
@cezieg i'm glad you read it. I was afraid no on would read it because it was so long, but it is such a good read. It illustrates exactly how I feel about children and what I anticipate having a family with dogs would be like. I fear it, for fear of rejection. You're not supposed to love your dogs as much as your children. The husband actually reminds me of my boyfriend. As much as my boyfriend is more supportive of the pup we got, Toki has always been my dog, my responsibility. He knew I wanted a dog, that is why he was okay with me getting one (and even one more in the next year), but only on the premise that he was in my responsibility fiscally, emotionally, and obediently, (like, teaching him obedience, dunno how to word it, lol). He loves Toki like a family member, more than the husband does in the story, but nevertheless, Toki is mine. He thinks dogs are nothing more than four legged furry things due to the fact that he grew up in a rural area where dogs came and go and were always outside dogs. They were, essentially, to relate back to the story, "disposable". But Toki lives in a very loving home regardless, love from both him and I, so I can't complain. Toki is happy
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